Behaviour is concerning or harmful if…
Harmful sexual behaviour does not have to involve physical force or even touching. It does however, involve an abuse of power by someone who is older, bigger, more mature or simply more knowledgeable about sexual matters. If you are acting in a sexually inappropriate way towards someone who has not consented (or is not old enough to consent) or who is not in an equal relationship where they are totally free to consent, your behaviour is sexually harmful.
Harmful sexual behaviour that does not involve touching may include:
Making obscene phone calls
Exposing your genitals
Flashing your genitals
Masturbating in front of someone who has not consented
Secretly spying on someone who is undressing or who is naked (peeping)
Downloading and / or distributing objectionable pornography from the internet (harmful behaviour on the internet)
Harmful sexual behaviour that does involve touch may include:
Rubbing against someone without their consent
Fondling their private parts
Masturbating someone else or making them masturbate you
Oral sex and penetration of the vagina or anus
Bestiality – sexual behaviour with animals
If you or someone you know has these behaviours, we can help.
Safe Network's services
We provide specialist services for adult males and females (18 years and over) who have engaged in harmful sexual behaviour towards children.
We also work with adults who may not have engaged in physical behaviour towards children but have accessed, distributed and produced child sexual abuse images and films through the internet and social media.
In addition to individual services for adults, Safe provides the following further specialist services:
Safe Network provides services for those who have accessed, traded, or produced child sexual abuse material or who have engaged or communicated with children and young people online in a sexual context (grooming).
Safe Network offers specialist intervention services for children (5 – 12 years), youth (13-17 years), and adults (18 years and over), through kaupapa Māori therapeutic models of practice.
Approximately 25% of Safe’s clients are Māori. The services under Te Kakano have been developed by and are delivered by Maori practitioners for Maori clients. Safe also has the external guidance and oversight of a kaumatua.
Safe Network offers specialist intervention pathways for Pasifika children (5 – 12 years), youth (13-17 years) and adults (18 years and over).
Our Amanaki Pasifika service has been developed and is led by clinicians of Samoan and Tongan descent who are fluent in their language and able to meet the clinical and cultural needs of this client group.
Safe Network offers specialist clinical assessment and intervention service for women who present with concerning and harmful sexual behaviour, and for their families.
This service pathway spans the range of Safe’s service areas and was designed to understand and accommodate the specific needs of female clients by providing a gender-responsive and collaborative service that acknowledges the social and cultural realities of women.
Our goal is to work with you to ensure you are able to lead a safe and healthy life.
This means that when you leave Safe’s care, we expect that you:
- Do not commit further offenses of any kind
- Take full responsibility for your offending behaviour
- Gain acceptance as a safe, responsible member of your family and whānau
- Are able to have safe intimate relationships with others
- Have created a safe and healthy lifestyle
Research indicates that around 95% of adults1 and 98% of adolescents2 with sexually harmful behaviour who complete one of Safe’s services will not engage in any further harmful sexual behaviour.
- Community Solutions for the Community’s Problem: An outcome evaluation of three New Zealand community child sex offender treatment programmes, by Ian Lambie and Malcolm Stewart, 2003
- Getting it Right: An evaluation of New Zealand community treatment programmes for adolescents who sexually offend. Ka pu e ruha, ka hao te rangatahi, by Ian Lambie, 2007.
Safe Network fact sheets